08-21-2006, 04:28 AM
Whether or not you believe or accept it, allow me to take the responsible viewpoint here...
He may be an ass, but so were you when you lied to him. If he thinks you're unreliable the only wyay to prove him wrong is by showing reliability. That means honesty and openness, no matter how much you may hate doing it. And part of that honesty would probably involve letting him know how much you hate him. Also, mixing lies, jokes, and truth is always a bad idea. When you get into the habit of lying smoothly, then contradict yourself, it makes them ask how many other things you've lied about.
After admitting your hobby, you ought not to have told them there were pictures in that package, but what was truly in it. And when they asked for them, refuse. You paid for it, it's yours, and not theirs to touch.
You see, the fact is, it was a dirty thing to do to lie to him about this. I always lied to my parents about having my homework done, or simply not having it, and it was just as bad for trust and reliability to do that as it was for you to say "Well, I do kinda collect knives and stuff", then "That packagae was just some pictures from an online friend." and then bring down the shuriken that actually came when asked about it. Truth, lie, truth is a horrible habit, and I speak here from experience. Lying to my parents is like second nature at this point, so what do I do? I try to make myself be honest when I talk to them. And they still don't know when to believe what I tell them.
At this point, your father has every right and reason to watch you and be sure you're not misbehaving and acting up. Stop lying and you don't need to worry about these things! Everything we do has a price, but the things that hurt trust are some of the hardest to deal with. Responsibility means only lying when it's the responsible thing to do, not just because you want people to think better of you. Oh, yes: Lying is almost never the repsonsible thing to do. If you want your dad to consider you reliable and/or responsible, stop lying, and start showing him that you ARE reliable and responsible.
He may be an ass, but so were you when you lied to him. If he thinks you're unreliable the only wyay to prove him wrong is by showing reliability. That means honesty and openness, no matter how much you may hate doing it. And part of that honesty would probably involve letting him know how much you hate him. Also, mixing lies, jokes, and truth is always a bad idea. When you get into the habit of lying smoothly, then contradict yourself, it makes them ask how many other things you've lied about.
After admitting your hobby, you ought not to have told them there were pictures in that package, but what was truly in it. And when they asked for them, refuse. You paid for it, it's yours, and not theirs to touch.
You see, the fact is, it was a dirty thing to do to lie to him about this. I always lied to my parents about having my homework done, or simply not having it, and it was just as bad for trust and reliability to do that as it was for you to say "Well, I do kinda collect knives and stuff", then "That packagae was just some pictures from an online friend." and then bring down the shuriken that actually came when asked about it. Truth, lie, truth is a horrible habit, and I speak here from experience. Lying to my parents is like second nature at this point, so what do I do? I try to make myself be honest when I talk to them. And they still don't know when to believe what I tell them.
At this point, your father has every right and reason to watch you and be sure you're not misbehaving and acting up. Stop lying and you don't need to worry about these things! Everything we do has a price, but the things that hurt trust are some of the hardest to deal with. Responsibility means only lying when it's the responsible thing to do, not just because you want people to think better of you. Oh, yes: Lying is almost never the repsonsible thing to do. If you want your dad to consider you reliable and/or responsible, stop lying, and start showing him that you ARE reliable and responsible.