07-31-2006, 11:32 AM
Practice makes perfect in every facet of life. If you feel like you're saying the wrong things, then by the process of elimination, you'll eventually come to the conclusion of what the right things are.
Personally, I'm a big fan of playing out scenarios in my head. I imagine the most ridiculous and radical responses someone could make to something I say, and then I play out the rest of the scenario. It very very often ends badly. But knowing that nobody would ever respond to what I say in such a radical fashion, I don't have to worry about offending anyone so much in a real conversation.
Try it! It may work for you, too. Not like I'm a huge socialite or anything, but I can carry on a conversation with people as i need to.
Personally, I'm a big fan of playing out scenarios in my head. I imagine the most ridiculous and radical responses someone could make to something I say, and then I play out the rest of the scenario. It very very often ends badly. But knowing that nobody would ever respond to what I say in such a radical fashion, I don't have to worry about offending anyone so much in a real conversation.
Try it! It may work for you, too. Not like I'm a huge socialite or anything, but I can carry on a conversation with people as i need to.