10-23-2004, 12:48 AM
I understand what you mean, Zephyr. I think I've found love for the moment, but everything else you said I sympathise with. I especially agree that women need certain stereotypical characteristics to be considered physically "good-looking". I've had that problem all my life, and I bet it must seem even more unfair for you, since you claim you're actually pretty.
And the thing with relationships... Ugh. Worst part is when guys or girls whom you consider annoying and hypocritical get together with cute and fun people. It doesn't help that I'm a very jealous person; I even envy my closest friends when they get involved in a relationship.
There's nothing that can be done about that, I don't think, unless you're willing to change yourself for others. I wouldn't advice you to do that, since you appear to be special in ways any intelligent person would find very charming. It's a problem our society has, most likely stemming from the standards other people set for us in our developing ages.
However, I think it's naive to believe that your need for it was implanted by a general dogmatic belief. Love is vital, at least for humans, whatever form it comes in; at your age, it's only natural that the romantic kind of love will be the kind to draw you.
For now, I would only advice you not to set requirements for guys, when it comes to categorising them as "relationship-material". You shouldn't apply rules for love, or go looking for it. It'll come by itself. I hope it does end up crossing your way in the end, because it really is worth the time and trouble. That, and because you really do appear to deserve it, considering you're a girl with such passion about what she does. :)
And the thing with relationships... Ugh. Worst part is when guys or girls whom you consider annoying and hypocritical get together with cute and fun people. It doesn't help that I'm a very jealous person; I even envy my closest friends when they get involved in a relationship.
There's nothing that can be done about that, I don't think, unless you're willing to change yourself for others. I wouldn't advice you to do that, since you appear to be special in ways any intelligent person would find very charming. It's a problem our society has, most likely stemming from the standards other people set for us in our developing ages.
However, I think it's naive to believe that your need for it was implanted by a general dogmatic belief. Love is vital, at least for humans, whatever form it comes in; at your age, it's only natural that the romantic kind of love will be the kind to draw you.
For now, I would only advice you not to set requirements for guys, when it comes to categorising them as "relationship-material". You shouldn't apply rules for love, or go looking for it. It'll come by itself. I hope it does end up crossing your way in the end, because it really is worth the time and trouble. That, and because you really do appear to deserve it, considering you're a girl with such passion about what she does. :)