07-14-2007, 12:10 AM
He's married to you, not her. What does that tell you?
Just because he may talk about her in an endearing way, doesn't mean he still has feelings for her. Some exes do choose to genuinely stay friends afterward. Even if he did have feelings, the fact of the matter is that you're his husband, and he'd never cheat on you.
Also, take into account how deeply involved with the rest of his family you are: if he were ever to cheat on you, the family would immediately turn on him.
You have nothing to worry about. Your relationship is not under threat. Don't think of her as his ex, but as a close friend he once went out with. Then make the effort to get to know her: when she is tied to you, as well, your position is even stronger. Make the effort to become good friends.
Just because he may talk about her in an endearing way, doesn't mean he still has feelings for her. Some exes do choose to genuinely stay friends afterward. Even if he did have feelings, the fact of the matter is that you're his husband, and he'd never cheat on you.
Also, take into account how deeply involved with the rest of his family you are: if he were ever to cheat on you, the family would immediately turn on him.
You have nothing to worry about. Your relationship is not under threat. Don't think of her as his ex, but as a close friend he once went out with. Then make the effort to get to know her: when she is tied to you, as well, your position is even stronger. Make the effort to become good friends.