02-17-2004, 09:35 AM
From the sound of things, his assholeness is your husband, and you're his wife. This sounds like the guy is old-fashioned about women's roles. I have a grandfather like that, and my mom was so glad to leave his house. Basically, the idea is that a woman's only job is to stay at home, barefoot and pregnant (if they're not pregnant, make'em pregnant), while the man literally owns the woman like slavery. This is unhealthy for everyone concerned. I'd recommend first talking to him about it, letting him know what he's doing (marital problems should try to be worked out before resorting to divorce). If he doesn't realize he's doing anything wrong and has no intent on changing whatsoever, then an instant divorce is necessary, before this abuse grows into the illegal kind.