I guess I can be mean

[Harie Krauzer]

Well, sorta, or more like incodsiderate. I need to say it. Well, this is more than one, but being fairly anonymous helps.

The really quick rundown it's me, Lady A, Lady B, and it is my fault. Oh, and love, in case you didn't guess.

In case any of you didn't know, I'm not a big talker. I don't go out and do things. These past few days my leisure has been reading books and watching Anime and various other things not too far from those. I wouldn't say you'd see my face in the dictionary under melancholly, but maybe as a "see also."

After failing at college for a bit, my GPA is just under failing and is a bit next to impossible to work with, I've been going to a Technical training school. That's been nice. I don't view a Medical Assistant as a very good job, but it is better than retail. It's a long trip, so I've been carpooling with Lady A. She is a casual five minute drive from my home. We are both rather laid back. I've always had difficutly carrying a conversation for too long, in general, but once we get one going, it is rather enjoyable. It makes the drive go by fast. She is not comfortable with me visting her home. I mean going inside. I think she hates it, but she says "It's too dirty". She is still living with her parents. I haven't made much effort to bring her to my home. I'm the one with the vehicle. We went out on a "date" once to see Eragon, and that went well. She said, "We should do something like this again." Still, I'm not sure what to make of it. I'd like to go out with her, but I'm not sure what to do, persay.

Lady B, is someone at the Tech school. She is shy too, but I don't care about that much. She was recently... seperated (boyfriend), and me and her were "hooked up" by mutual friends to make here happy. We've only really talked for a few days. Still, she is... I don't know how to put it. She is the agressive one. I'm not sure if she is acting like this because of her recent break up. Add their child to the mix, and I am VERY hesitant. I don't mind listening to her, but she is going a little fast, for me, on this dating thing. There is also the fact that we live an hour, or so, apart. She is about an hour away. I really haven't visiting her yet, but we'll be spending some time in the mall Saturday. Yes, all three.

Don't think I think ill that she has a kid, but I haven't been in any romantic realtionship, period. I really don't know how to act. Personally, it does put me on alert. Of what, I am not entirely sure. I guess that is as best as I can do, for now.

At a quick glance, I would say Lady A over B, but a few class mates know B and not A. Now for the real part that makes me feel like a bastard. I went out with A shortly after my friends at the school tried to hook me up with B. My friends (well the two relevant ones), B, and myself are in the same program. A is in a different one, so they really do not know her. One friend knows what I've done, but he is pushing for B. I don't feel much B, but she is agressive. With A I feel like I'm the one with the inscentive to do anything, but I'm unsure how to.

All in all, it really has pushed me out of my comfort zone and has caused me to do things I have not done before. I'm sure it is all for the better, but I really don't want things to fall apart. Time is really the best way to deal with it, but I would like to sort this out as quickly as possible. I am just clueless on how to do it. I would like to bring A around, but I think she is the same way as me when it comes to going places, very few. I, myself, never went out just to go out. I always went out for one reason and then returned promtly home.

[mowgly]

I'm not sure if I'm understanding well but from what I've seen you've done nothing wrong, if you haven't made it oficial yet, I know it can seem selfish but I think it's still ok , don't prolong it too much though, if it's about your desition on who you should stay with, your friends shouldn't expect you to follow their recomendations, though you should tell them you're more interested in another girl, if they get to know about it and complain they aren't all that empathic and a bit selfish I'd say.

[Herr Mullen]

Deary me, wait for one for ages, and two come along at once. A friend of mine had that sort of a problem, once. I said to him "They're like buses." He said "Yeah, the two at once thing" and I replied "No, they are like buses."

Not really, but a good Jimmy Carr joke. Onto the serious bit.

Go for lady A. Your friends might be pushing for the recommendation, however you're a vigin to this game and to jump in at the deep end with someone who has a child, has recently split up and is a little pushy I think is reckless. Go for Lady A, but make sure you don't upset lady B too much.

[Harie Krauzer]

That's what I pretty much figured. That's what I'm getting from other people that I have been talking with, brothers, one of their girlfriends, and etc. I just really want to make sure I want to do this as best as possible. It's just that, I know that's what I want to do, but upseting someone seems to be nearly inevitable.


... and damn it all. I try going to B's house because I did say I was willing to hang out at a mall with her, but I couldn't find her house after awhile so I just drove home. Even with repeat intsructions, I couldn't make it! I never told her because I really hate talking over phones. I'm not familiar with her area at all. I thought I could have managed. I really do not enjoy urban areas. I enjoy my more rural area.

The real thing I fear is having to deal with her and what not during school. I learned a few other people know about this. Next time, I may talk to my family first. They seem to have a better handle on this then me... to bad it is past the point, but it may be reversable. That and such things are not the end of the world.

[Renamon_S3]

Talking with your family is what I would suggest. They would know you the best. If you don't like their advice, I would be glad to offer some. Just ask if you want. But, I strongly believe that you would get the best advice from them.

[Harie Krauzer]

Well, I, more or less made it through. I, dare say, I have it working out on the way I'm comfortable with. I was definitely anxious through it all.

I did talk to my parents. This must have been one of the few things I seriously talked to them about. A sign of better things to come no doubt. All of their work was not in vain.

[Renamon_S3]

Glad to hear it.

[Niyara]

The best advice I can give is to follow your heart.. No matter who you end up with you will be a lot happier if it is your own choice rather than what your friends or family want.