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[Ryan]

Its pointless enjoyment. Unless you want kids.

I disagree. Sex is actually quite healthy unless your partner has some kind of STD.

Stress relief is one good point. Communication is another. Some people have a hard time expressing themselves in words. Sex gives them one option.

And, even if it was just enjoyment, why would you say it's pointless? There are many more pointless activities out there that people still engage in.

Because I avoid enjoyment. I rather have a heart broken soul then a sex drive soul. Don't strive for something you dont want. Plus I dont need relationships. (Love,GF,BF) All I need is my friends. But even if I didnt have them. I am pretty content with being alone.

[Guilmon and a shotgun]

If you don't need a relationship, what gives you solid ground for criticising other people's relationships?

[Ryan]

If you don't need a relationship, what gives you solid ground for criticising other people's relationships?

Touche.

More or less I am trying to help out. A little bit of advice. A lot of drama went on with my sister. And oddly enough this situation is kinda dejevu. But aside from that. Where do any of us stand on solid ground to criticize anyone for anything?

[UnknownH]

If you don't need a relationship, what gives you solid ground for criticising other people's relationships?

To be fair, how many of us really are good at relationships? And so, that's the issue.

[DragonMasterX]

And still the topic at hand is about mailing between one of our members and someone in prison in the state of Oregon, not about if relationships are good or bad. If the girl wants to focus on a sexual relationship, then let her do what will make her the happiest, I think everybody's been clear with their opinions and advices that she should be wary of who she gets involved with, and if she still involves herself with someone from a prison then that means she's sure of what she's going to do. I say people need to give her some space, I mean, damn, she hasn't replied since her first post.

Just saying, don't turn this into a pointless debate o:

[Wisemon]

Also, Wise, for a woman to be sexually aroused by a man who does not fit what she percieves as her type, she would need a very good imagination, or at least some other kind of stimulus such as her favorite porn video to help her fantasize about who she would rather be with.

I actually have an example that proves you wrong. I aroused my ex, but she broke up with me because I wasn't her type.

[Ryan]

Also, Wise, for a woman to be sexually aroused by a man who does not fit what she percieves as her type, she would need a very good imagination, or at least some other kind of stimulus such as her favorite porn video to help her fantasize about who she would rather be with.

I actually have an example that proves you wrong. I aroused my ex, but she broke up with me because I wasn't her type.

:( Well that sucks.

[UnknownH]

It does. Hey, a lot of women arouse men but most they wouldn't go out with.
And I can probably arouse a woman too. But, if she actually likes me is the issue.

[fred_18_2008]

hm. to OP, if its just writing and chatting it up with an inmate, then by all means go ahead, though if they reply back, well even better. but once it gets further than that, please, be cautious please! no matter how small a crime, it is, still a crime, and it landed them in prison.

[Rational passion]

Also, Wise, for a woman to be sexually aroused by a man who does not fit what she percieves as her type, she would need a very good imagination, or at least some other kind of stimulus such as her favorite porn video to help her fantasize about who she would rather be with.

I actually have an example that proves you wrong. I aroused my ex, but she broke up with me because I wasn't her type.

In this, I'm going to have to disagree with my gf.. A woman can be aroused by anything whether she likes it or not. But most can't have an orgasm unless they are with someone they are genuinely attracted to, or fantasize about someone else. I've never had a problem with that though.. I can find something attractive about just about anyone. Although it is easier if I don't have to try.

And it is easier for an attractive person to arouse a partner, but even (as one of my friends would put it) A goofy lookin fucker, can get the job done if they know what they're doing.