A story and stuff.

[The Reclaimer]

Well, I haven't posted in a bit, so I think it's fitting that I do so with a nice rant, cause that's what I do.

So I went out to dinner last night with some friends from work and my sister, who works with us. It was nice and all but I was the target of pretty much every joke and insult. Then comes up the fact that my sister's friend (a girl there at dinner with us, who works with us) was drunk one night she was staying over, and came into my room and said she was going to sleep in my bed. I told her "I don't think my parents would appreciate that" for two reasons 1) I have enough respect for my parents who let me live at home free of charge as I work through college and 2) I just really didn't want her to sleep in my bed. So anyway, that little story comes up and everyone laughs, and then she tells me "I'm just trying to further the cause" and I asked "What cause is that?" "The get you laid cause."

Well guys I'm still a virgin, and it's by choice. So finding out that everyone at work is working behind my back, especially like that, makes me angry, because on top of that, when I'm told to loosen up (which yeah, I'm sure I could do well to relax more at work, but when I'm the only one working it pisses me off) they tell me "Yeah go get laid."

No one seems to understand that I chose not to have sex with my ex, and I'm not going to hop in bed with some random person, especially a girl that's probably had more penis than a pornstar.

I don't mean to make her sound like a whore, she's more of a floozy, a good person but waaaaay to "touch me." So I don't know. I don't feel bad for not doing anything with her (even though we all know she wants me), but I just can't believe the people I thought were friends, and my own sister even, would think so lowly of me. And then they tell me I need to party...uh then invite me to one. I'm a bit stressed at work, I don't hate life.

[Gunter VanCrimson]

Wow- shes... interesting...
Like you, I'm also a virgin (I think), and I know how that feels, that really must suck for you- er- good luck with your work-

[Herr Mullen]

Stick to your guns, and don't let them get you down in the slightest.

[DrunkenMunkee]

Good for you! Don't do anything you don't want to. I'm suprised that your sister was in on it though.

[Crimson Fox]

I know how you feel, it seems everyone has the urge to manipulate or change the other. Just remember to remain true to what you believe in and don't let others drag you down. Everyone is entitled to their beliefs.

[fred_18]

not sure what that feels like but who knows you could've got her pregnant or started to party and getting bad grades. like I heard from somewhere here(not sure where) maybe yes maybe no.

[MISTER BIG T]

Kid, trust me on this one. It does one very, VERY good to lose your virginity. So what if it's random whore? (Unless she's a real whore, in which case you could get better) As long as she's clean, there's nothing to worry about.


Hell, my first time was anything but a cool girl when I was 16 and....... Um, nevermind.


The fact is, it alters your way of living and blah blah. In short, give it a try and if you hate it you can live in celibacity. It's same thing but you already get the advantages. I don't claim I know anything of your personal life or the way you act but whatever. You can heed my advice or just pretend I didn't say anything.

[Shadowknight]

Sex is a very important thing in a relationship. If you just throw it about then it loses all meaning. Just like too many people throw the word "Love" around. They're both two of the most important things in a meaningful relationship yet the constant pointless use of them is causing their immensly personal and intimate meanings to be reduced to nothing. Don't jump the gun on this or you'll end up regretting it.

[Harie Krauzer]

Herr Mullen already said what I was going to, "Stick to your guns." Though for your sister being on it... I really can't say much for that. As for myself, I only have two brothers (older and younger). Our beliefs are also similar.

These sort of choices seem so simple yet they have rather profound effects.

I'll aslo add onto Shadowknights with "love being thrown around." I would say I, at the very least, find two problems with "love."

A: The English language doesn't have too many words for "love." I could say: I love my cat, I love my family, I love my home, I love my car, I love DAD, and etc. But these are obviously different degrees of love. Well, there could be some such as: care, charity, pity, or appreciate, but these still do not really help things out when they are not used. If anyone can sort me out here, but I'm pretty sure this is the way it is.

B: Love is not sex. Sure, some people make it out to be, but it is not.

[DrunkenMunkee]

B: Love is not sex. Sure, some people make it out to be, but it is not.

Exactly. Recently, I read something on a site. A girl asked 'What is the difference between love and crushing?' (or somehting similar to that)
there were some good answers, but the one answer that really pissed me off was this:
'Love is when you want to fuck someone, and a crush is when you want to hold hands.'
I'm hoping he meant that backwards...

Anyway, on the whole sex thing: In my view, you'll know when the right time is. Don't let anyone else tell you when that time is. Trust your instincts on this one, 'cause I'd say its pretty important.