That seems to be the idea girls have, Raze, but it makes no sense to me. I mean, guys should be considerate of their significant other's needs, yes, and vice versa too, but we guys are not psychics or mind readers. "If we have to tell you, you don't deserve to know" is your statement. A guy's (unspoken) answer is usually "Good, because if you don't tell me I WON'T know." And since he won't know what the heck is wrong, he's not going to do anything to try to fix it. If he doesn't do anything to try to fix it, the girl gets even more frustrated and it builds up, and the relationship starts to go sour. You're mad at him for something he doesn't know about, he's frustrated because he doesn't know and you won't tell him, and, well, who knows after that?
Sometimes stuff like that starts with what I think are pretty dumb things, and please don't be mad at me for saying so. For instance, the question "Do you think I look fat?" No girl I've met has ever asked that question with the intention of getting an honest answer. No matter how much the poor guy tries to sugar coat it, tries to be considerate of her feelings without lying (which she'd inevitably be mad at later when someone tells her she DOES look fat), if he does not say "No," she's mad at him. Why? "He was supposed to say 'no, you look beautiful!'" Of course, she wouldn't tell him that, which starts up what I outlined above. Sometimes even things like "Doesn't this dress look fabulous on me?" "Oh, it's nice, I like it." spawns into "Nice? Just nice?!" and silent treatment and cold shoulders from the female entity. If she wants an honest answer, she should ask a question like "How does this look on me?" "Would you work out with me at the gym? I think I'd like to trim up a bit." An answer like "It looks great!" would work for that first one, wouldn't it? Or "Sure, we'll work out together!" or "Trim up? You don't need to do that at all!" for the second?
lol Sorry all of that was so wordy. It's hard even for me to explain what I'm thinking.
A friend of mine told me once that "flawed logic is flawed." I know, that's not very profound. Still, it kind of makes sense if you think about it for a while.
Sometimes stuff like that starts with what I think are pretty dumb things, and please don't be mad at me for saying so. For instance, the question "Do you think I look fat?" No girl I've met has ever asked that question with the intention of getting an honest answer. No matter how much the poor guy tries to sugar coat it, tries to be considerate of her feelings without lying (which she'd inevitably be mad at later when someone tells her she DOES look fat), if he does not say "No," she's mad at him. Why? "He was supposed to say 'no, you look beautiful!'" Of course, she wouldn't tell him that, which starts up what I outlined above. Sometimes even things like "Doesn't this dress look fabulous on me?" "Oh, it's nice, I like it." spawns into "Nice? Just nice?!" and silent treatment and cold shoulders from the female entity. If she wants an honest answer, she should ask a question like "How does this look on me?" "Would you work out with me at the gym? I think I'd like to trim up a bit." An answer like "It looks great!" would work for that first one, wouldn't it? Or "Sure, we'll work out together!" or "Trim up? You don't need to do that at all!" for the second?
lol Sorry all of that was so wordy. It's hard even for me to explain what I'm thinking.
A friend of mine told me once that "flawed logic is flawed." I know, that's not very profound. Still, it kind of makes sense if you think about it for a while.
