05-28-2004, 11:39 PM
You cannot make anybody stop being suicidal, and you cannot talk them out of it if they're committed. I want to say that suicide isn't a cowardly act, because it's not. I'm a coward and every time I get suicidal... I can't go through with it. Suicide is one of the bravest things someone can do, but that kind of courage is so twisted, I hope I never have that kind of courage myself, because then I might actually fail in my overall resolve, which is to live for all the life I've been given.
I've been sucidal several times since the middle of last October (see my "Why do bad things happen" rant for more info on why), and on one occassion even came close to doing it. I couldn't go through with it myself, because I knew it would let down everyone I care about, whether they care in return or not. Even if I did somehow have a chance to see them in the afterlife, I wouldn't want to, because I would have disppointed the one person whose opinion is most important to me: ME.
I can give advice, but the only person who can ultimately make your friend stop being suicidal is your friend herself. If she's stuck in a hedonistic relationship, she should get out. Especially so if she's in it for approval from someone, and that's the only way she can find.
If her father hates her (such a strong word), and I mean really, truly, hates her and wishes she had never been born, tell her to disown him. His opinion doesn't mean anything, his wishes of her nonexistence are in vain, because she was given this life, probably by some force we don't really comprehend, and I think it would be easier to sommit suicide if there weren't some purpose to our lives. So let her know that no matter how much anybody hates her, no matter how much anybody wants her to stop being, she shouldn't give in to that, because she has a purpose in life, and on some deep, gut level feeling, she knows that, and perhaps even what it is.
If she's doing poorly in school, encourage her. Help her. Most importantly, let her know that you KNOW she can do better if she focuses on it. Maybe her bad relationship is having an impact, in which case, getting out of it is one of the best things she can do. Bad grades are the easiest of the problems to fix, and with the help of a good friend, with the support of a good friend, she should be able to stop thinking of suicide as an answer.
If you're truly concerned about your friend, here is my advice: Support her. If she is having trouble standing under the weight of the world, help her keep standing, keep going. Do not let her carry all of that alone, because that sort of burden will break anyone who tries to bear it alone. I know, I have been there, and I have come very close to breaking down.
This song helped me greatly with spotting my hard times, and I hope it can help. And yes, it is a Christian song, but it can help.
I hope this can help, and what I have offered is all I can give in the way of advice.
I've been sucidal several times since the middle of last October (see my "Why do bad things happen" rant for more info on why), and on one occassion even came close to doing it. I couldn't go through with it myself, because I knew it would let down everyone I care about, whether they care in return or not. Even if I did somehow have a chance to see them in the afterlife, I wouldn't want to, because I would have disppointed the one person whose opinion is most important to me: ME.
I can give advice, but the only person who can ultimately make your friend stop being suicidal is your friend herself. If she's stuck in a hedonistic relationship, she should get out. Especially so if she's in it for approval from someone, and that's the only way she can find.
If her father hates her (such a strong word), and I mean really, truly, hates her and wishes she had never been born, tell her to disown him. His opinion doesn't mean anything, his wishes of her nonexistence are in vain, because she was given this life, probably by some force we don't really comprehend, and I think it would be easier to sommit suicide if there weren't some purpose to our lives. So let her know that no matter how much anybody hates her, no matter how much anybody wants her to stop being, she shouldn't give in to that, because she has a purpose in life, and on some deep, gut level feeling, she knows that, and perhaps even what it is.
If she's doing poorly in school, encourage her. Help her. Most importantly, let her know that you KNOW she can do better if she focuses on it. Maybe her bad relationship is having an impact, in which case, getting out of it is one of the best things she can do. Bad grades are the easiest of the problems to fix, and with the help of a good friend, with the support of a good friend, she should be able to stop thinking of suicide as an answer.
If you're truly concerned about your friend, here is my advice: Support her. If she is having trouble standing under the weight of the world, help her keep standing, keep going. Do not let her carry all of that alone, because that sort of burden will break anyone who tries to bear it alone. I know, I have been there, and I have come very close to breaking down.
This song helped me greatly with spotting my hard times, and I hope it can help. And yes, it is a Christian song, but it can help.
Quote:Maybe your father didn't love you like he should,
Maybe your mother just got by the best she could.
Everyone's got a secret, you can throw it away or keep it.
Don't carry the weight, the weight of the world
It's breaking you down, on your back like a boulder
Before it's too late, get rid of it girl.
Get it off your shoulders
Hey we've all been used, but we can lose, the weight of the world, the weight of the world, the weight of the world
It all comes down to who you crucify,
You can either wave to your future or your past good-bye.
God can help you try, and give you the wings to fly.
Don't carry the weight, the weight of the world
It's breaking you down, on your back like a boulder
Before it's too late, get rid of it girl.
Get it off your shoulders
Hey we've all been used, but we can lose, the weight of the world, the weight of the world, the weight of the world
I hope this can help, and what I have offered is all I can give in the way of advice.