01-22-2004, 06:18 AM
Togashi Wrote:I don't think your roomate is giving you the time of day because he feels you have a crush on him. It seems strange that he is your best friend, yet he won't even go have a drink with ya. I think you should explain things, that he's one of your best friends, and that it hurts that he won't spend time with you. If it makes him feel more comfortable, tell him he should invite a friend or something. He just might not like the idea of just the two of you going somewhere.
It strikes me that you've already taken the first, most dificult step in telling him about your sexuality. And I will have to comend you on that, I have never been able to tell any of my real life friends about almost anything I do online, and as for sexuality, well I never really found myself looking for anything in particular. I'd best describe myself as Anti-Sexual right now, you try explaining that to someone >_>
I'm just like Togashi on this one. In the Anti-Sexual part. I'm not looking for anyone or anything, nor do I really care (well, at the moment at least). I don't tell anyone about anything I do.
As for your problem, I'd say discuss it with him. I know what I'm about to say may sound harsh, but hear me out. Sit down with him and talk to him about it. If he still refuses to accept you, dump him like a bad habit. If he doesn't have the mind to accept you for who you are, he doesn't deserve to be your friend. There are plenty of other people in this world who are willing to you as you are.
I also know that if he doesn't accept you and you do lose him as a friend, that it will hurt. I've lost a few of my best friends, and it does hurt. But once you find other friends, he will move right out of your mind (you'll always remember him, you just won't feel the same pain as when it first happens). I'm done with my rant because this topic is about you and not me and I don't like imposing on others.