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Yeah, basically it's sad to think of this. Especially if you had friendly relations that span for years long. Only much to your sadness and disappointment that they no longer contact nor even pay a sliver of attention to you. If you're a fanartist, they no longer comment nor even see your work.

Probably some of you will respond with the likes of; "..Maybe they're distracted with their RL matters etc." Yeah, it will be a relief if that was the case then.

But what if the unfortunate truth was that they felt or worse, to have the gall to say straight in your face that "We've grown too apart," or "I've outgrown you?"

Imagine all those years of warm and friendly relations suddenly plummeting to a cold, silent, distant and apathetic treatment to you.. The feeling of something parallel to an old and discarded toy... That envy, jealousy when you see your ex-friend basking their new found acquaintance/s in the same warmth and company that you were once showered with in the past.

I admit I have the same dilemma at times that occasionally haunts my thoughts from time to time. This rant of mine could be petty, as this mostly apply on my personal online friendships.

Oh, gosh SnK, I can relate to you with that;having had to leave friends behind many times in the past- I mean, sure, we've said the cliche and totally corny we'll always be friends no matter what lines, but really, growing apart is a really possible and tragic reality.

This rant of yours is not petty at all, in fact, we should totally find ways to prevent this! Like- buy a pair of handcuffs and handcuff yourselves together- or send really annoying chain mail to them to remind them of your existence!

Handcuffs can be a good idea.

Anyway, I've also read your own rant thread, and I agree with the rest of your commentors there. 'Di ka naiisa, ika nga nila.

Perhaps that's how life goes. You're not always on top, and there's times you're always not on the bottom. Perhaps same thing can be said about friends both RL and online. You lose old ones, and at times you gain new ones.

But letting go of the old ones whom have grown too distant to you is hard, especially if you valued your time with them and their company. One can hope that maybe one day, they'll miss the good times they had with you and will come back crawling.

It happened to me about ten years ago, yeah it sucks. It was my best friend but then his interests changed....

I'm sorry this has happed to you :(. I've had that happen too, many times. See, I have a rare medical condition, so... all my friends are online, and I cling to them pretty bad, because they are all I have. I have one friend that I've had since 2003 (though I barely see him anymore) but in his case, it's pretty much an unspoken case of "We have NOTHING in common anymore, but we've been friends for so long, were not gonna stop talking" even though whenever he tries to talk about his guild in a fighting game i roll my eyes, and he probably does the same when I talk.

Other than that one friend, I've had quite a few "Best friends" come and go, since early 2001 when I first got online.

I still wanna know what happend to the great Axeomon!!! (im sure none of you know who im talking about, just had to say it..)

More recently I have had a friend, a 'best friend' for.. well i'd say out of our friendship from 2005 to now, we were probibly best friends 2005 to about 2008, but after that, he's changed somewhat, into a diffrent person than I ever thought he'd be. And now, since december, he has said that he wasnt getting on aim as much for a while, and that his brother was using his aim account. (though i know at least some of the time it is). So now i don't ever messege him, because i "don't know" if its him or not, and I haven't heard from him at all in at least a few months. It's sad, I miss his friendship, but at the same time, I think if he came online right now and we started talking, It wouldn't be the same.

Unfortunately, I think its just how life goes.