I know other people have it worse, but that doesn't mean I can't be angry about stuff all the same.
Putting this up here mostly because I can't talk about it with my family, as some people know I've recently done some damage to my leg, for obvious reasons I've been a bit pissed/depressed about it, yet every time I try to talk about it everyone says the same thing,
'Some of the horror stories I've heard about this stuff, you're lucky you've done so well.'
Yeah I know, other people with the same problem can't walk or work their legs half as good as me, BUT THAT DOESN'T MEAN I CAN'T BE PISSED ABOUT IT! Somebody is always gonna be worse off than someone else, that's just life, just because their problems are worse doesn't make mine better. I hate it, it's like I'm not allowed to be angry about it which just sucks.
And odds are I'm going to have to have surgery on my leg, which freaks me out, yes I admit I am absolutely terrified about the thought of having to go into surgery, but if I mention that it's always the same thing, 'Well this person's had to have a bunch of surgeries' or 'this isn't going to be half as bad as your other surgery'
I just want to complain about it, that's how I cope, something pisses me off I complain about it for a few hours or a day tops and then I deal with it. I'm really glad I have this place, at least here I know I can rant to people without them berating me for it.
I know exactly how you feel, minus the broken leg part. As for the surgery, yes, it's f reaky and scary, but if you talk with someone you care about before they put you under, you'll feel a bit better. Or, you can listen to your friends for encouragement, be they here or in the real world.
Complaining, or just yelling, can help you release your pent up anger at a non-living thing. I find that after I rant and scream, I feel calm again.
I hope all goes well in your surgery. :)
What you need is someone to catch all your anger-pitches! And someone to beat in a furious video game match! And then a hug! Well, the Lord of Shadows may not like the concept of a hug, so the huggers MAY get a fork embedded in their spine.
Have you got any close friends there? Sometimes, you just have to call one over and say "I need help." Then you can sit down, explain yourself, and just talk. Talking helps when you're scared. I remember surgery (not saying what kind of surgery it was) it was freakish, and scary, and I was awake through the whole thing. It was terrifying. Telling your friend about this could make you feel better. People don't have the right to say "Other people are far worse off than you."
"I broke my leg."
"So? THERE ARE STARVING ORPHANS IN AFRICA CUZ THEIR PARENTS HAD LOTS OF SEX YOU INSENSITIVE PRICK!!"
That's just plain laziness and neglect. Take care Shadow.
What Ray said. That is not called caring, that is called neglect. Neglect is the reason you're so pissed off, because you've had to bottle it up until now. Well, just keep the outburst up! That's how I get something off my system, although I kinda take about 2 hours of being concentrated in it as if it was gonna be the end of the world (emo) and then I just laugh about it as if it had never happened. Then again, your stuff is a kinda lot more complicated than my emotional stuff. Buuuut the methods don't differ, at the least.
Hey, if you gotta whine, then whine, it's like you said, it's not gonna make your problem any better if you are made out to act tough against something that really has you up and about, and that you simply can't bear with (At first at least). I hate surgeries, only been in three in my life, only one was life-threatening, but that gave me all the reasons I needed to hate hospitals, clinics and docs. I still like young nurses, though.
No it's not really neglect, I think my family thinks their helping, trying to keep my spirits up or something. Just going about it in a weird way. Gotta know last time I went into surgery I thought I'd be waking up without my leg, which is where my fear comes from. Just the whole, 'hey, it could be worse' thing that's annoying. And yeah, the cute nurses are definately the best part of the hospital stays.
(10-29-2008, 12:11 AM)DragonMasterX Wrote: [ -> ]What Ray said. That is not called caring, that is called neglect. Neglect is the reason you're so pissed off, because you've had to bottle it up until now. Well, just keep the outburst up! That's how I get something off my system, although I kinda take about 2 hours of being concentrated in it as if it was gonna be the end of the world (emo) and then I just laugh about it as if it had never happened. Then again, your stuff is a kinda lot more complicated than my emotional stuff. Buuuut the methods don't differ, at the least.
Hey, if you gotta whine, then whine, it's like you said, it's not gonna make your problem any better if you are made out to act tough against something that really has you up and about, and that you simply can't bear with (At first at least). I hate surgeries, only been in three in my life, only one was life-threatening, but that gave me all the reasons I needed to hate hospitals, clinics and docs. I still like young nurses, though.
Well I'll be your nurse ;D and you can become my patient anytime<3 ;D
I hate it when people tell other's they've got no right to complain. Yeah, things could always be worse but things could also be better ;) After all the whining I do it's nice to listen to other people's whines once in a while XD
Its not fair, the nurses here are old and strict/mean. 'Cept my mom, she's really sweet.
However much your fear is illogical, everyone's is I suppose. I'm afraid of heights no matter what's holding me up, it's just my thing. Anyhow, yeah it does suck but I hope the sugery doesn't go as bad as you think it will.
Shadow, I'm studying surgery for school, not to be a surgeon, but I have a good handle on most of the ins and outs, if you have any fears or questions, PM me, I'd be happy to find the answers for you.
Good luck!