I recently got Scrubs Season One on DVD as a gift. I had never really seen the show and once I watched it I instantly became a fan. Now I take it like I take any new obsession...catch up as fast as possible and buy it all! Which I did, I got Season 2 and burned through it, but I've had so much fun watching it, I'm actually sad that it's over. Is that sad?
I get the feeling I'm bonding with material things more than people...I guess that's because while I work all week and have school, on the weekend my nights are free but I have no one to spend them with.
I actually go back to work so I can do homework without distractions, and so I can hang out with the people working. I'm hitting this stride where all I want is someone that I can go to when I need someone to listen. My best friend was the only person I had left and he moved away. Now I feel like I don't have anyone, so I've started to get along with the new boss at work, he's sort of like a big brother to me, but he's getting a new job. I just don't get along with a lot of other people at work as well as I'd like to, and I don't want to force myself on anyone.
It's only human nature to feel lonely I suppose, I just wish it wasn't so damn painful...I guess I could relate to the show and I want to see things for them turn out fine so I'll have hope for the future...I don't know.
Stand out somehow. Clothing is a fantastic option. Wear a hat, or something out of the ordernary. Old fasioned clothes are good. This will attract attention, some of which could be negative, but that is ever so easy to ignore, however it will have lots of people coming up to you to say "I like your clothing." And you can reply "Thanks, I like yours. My name is The Reclaimer, I'm a Bailiff. What's your name?" Then you can get talking and such. I've made some good friends like this.
I agree with Herr Mullen. Make more friends. I'm still learing that too.... that people aren't as cynical as I always thought. Let me add, that there is nothing wrong with just having a small amount of friends.
Or you could grab some guy in school and ram his head into a nearby soda dispenser. That'll make you stand out. Just make sure it's someone who deserves it otherwise you'll just be seen as an emotionally unsound young person and get stuck in Juvie, a mental hospital, or both.
I don't mean to make this sound as bad as me sitting in a corner all alone.
I have people I talk to at work, and we're close enough that they ask me for advice, and care enough to give me their's, its just that it pretty much ends at work.
I get home, I rarely go out; no one asks me to hang out, though I have recently made a few plans with one of my co-workers in the near future.
It's not that I don't have friends, its just that I don't have anyone that I feel is close enough to really confide in, no one besides my family to say "hey, it'll be okay" and really have it mean something.
I have a similar problem. I talk to people during the day, but I don't feel like I have any real friends by the usual definition of "friend." It's the sensitive introvert's burden. Not only do we have fewer friends, but we feel more alone.
It's funny, whenever someone airs problems like yours, the first thing other people always say is the best solution is to find friends.
Personally, I don't think that's a particularly great solution. Surrounding yourself with people is but a temporary fix which will only last until you realize that you don't have any kind of serious connection with them. I've always been a fan of "quality over quantity."
I don't have a lot of friends myself, but the ones I DO have I know I can count on for just about anything.
I hit a pretty dark time when I was much younger, and without getting into the specifics of it, I learned to be pretty self-reliant. People will probably disagree strongly with me on this, but true happiness comes from the self. You have to learn how to be happy on your own, by yourself. That's what I think, anyway.
If all else fails and you need deep companionship, why don't you get a dog? I owe my emotional sanity to my doggy. Maybe a similar companion would be of great help and support to you, too. Dogs love their packmates unconditionally and unswervingly.
Hope I've been helpful...
Quote:Surrounding yourself with people is but a temporary fix which will only last until you realize that you don't have any kind of serious connection with them. I've always been a fan of "quality over quantity."
I totally agree.
Quote:why don't you get a dog?
I actually did get one for Christmas, and he certainly helps, its hard to think how I'd be handling this overwhelmingly busy time without him.
Quote:I talk to people during the day, but I don't feel like I have any real friends by the usual definition of "friend." It's the sensitive introvert's burden. Not only do we have fewer friends, but we feel more alone.
That's exactly what's going on. There when they have to be, not always when you hope they'd be.
(the usually Epsilon mindset has failed to win this topic)
Reclaimer, if it's any compensation, I'm your friend... same for you Wise, even if you critized my writing, and just about anyone else on the board, I'm your friend too!
If you need a significant other the best I can say is make yourself avalible and search hard for someone special, you never know who you may fall for and who may fall for you (something I am still learning)
even I need friends when I don't feel like killing them, and some people in my life I value too much to hurt, I realize life is cold and most things turn out for the worse, but you have to let that one dying ray of sunlight be your silver lining, I really can not offer you too much comfort after that and hope you find what you are looking for
I appreciate that Epsilon, thanks. And I am making some changes, we'll see what happens.