(11-23-2010 08:43 AM)Maahes Wrote: Well, Soni (Hello, by the way). I have very limited information, due to the fact that the only time I have a chance to talk to her is in french class. This ordinarily wouldn't be a problem, but my teacher teaches from bell to bell. Uhg. But I do talk to a mutual friend. And according to her, here is the information I have.
- She likes video games, especially The Legend of Zelda
- She likes movies
- She has a tightly knit pack of friends (in this metaphor, the girls are like wolves and move everywhere as a group. This is not meant to be derogatory in any way, shape, or form)
- She is always making inside jokes, sometimes at the expense of others and often in reference to pop culture
- ... and that's it. I'm still working on getting to know her, because it's hard thanks to that class
Well, hmmm... That's a good effort, but sadly a lot of that is sorta useless information. It's mostly surface stuff. The kind of person she is will pretty much dictate how you should approach her to be considered boyfriend material.
You can do this with 3 main things: Her sexual nature, her romantic nature, and her outlook on life.
Is she the type of person who would more likely suppress a negative sexual experience or is she the type of person who would cope with a negative sexual experience by mentally reducing the importance of sex itself?
Is she the type of person who would date lots of different guys or is she more likely to commit to one guy and keep him as her boyfriend?
Is she realistic about the future or does she have some sort of ideal dream goal she's striving for?
Look for clues to these questions in her behavior, and any clues you can find out from your mutual friend. Be warned: if you ask these questions to either her or your friend directly you'll look really weird. You might also get misinformation. (Especially about the sex thing.)
Here are some examples:
If she seems to have no problem talking about sex or sexuality, she's the type of person who would deal with a negative sexual experience by reducing the importance of sex. A symptom of that mindset is the ability to speak freely and openly about it because, "Hey, it's just sex."
If she has a lot of "guy friends" that she flirts with or teases, she's probably not the type to commit to one guy because she'd rather have her emotions fed by lots of male partners.
If she has her perfect wedding planned out or knows what she wants to do in order to achieve her dream job, she's an idealist.
Get it?
It's hard as heck to tell these things when you never talk to her, so see what you can learn about her, keeping these 3 points in mind, while you watch her. Keep a mental note of anything you can think of that jumps out at you.
From what you've told me, she likes anime and video games. These are the types of activities that don't brew a wide social network of friends normally. You also mentioned that she has a very close-knit group of friends. This would lead me to believe she's the type of person who'd only date one guy. The type of girl who'd go out with lots of different guys would also be more social (and no, online forums don't count ;)) and try to make more friends outside of her comfort zone.
I don't know this girl so I'm only basing this on the info you've given. If you can get some good evidence that would answer the other two questions, I'll bet I'd be able to help you out.
-Soni
P.S. Hi, tigerlily! Hi UnknownH!