08-01-2006, 03:44 PM
. . . Sorry it's late... I found it in the Writing section, but that was a few years ago. I didn't spy a copy when I visited on Saturday, but I also wasn't exactly looking for that book, since I already have a copy.
But why exactly, if you don't mind my asking, is "making love" the ultimate way of showing their love? There are many examples where doing this would not be the ultimate way, but I won't cite those here. In general, doing this can even do harm to an otherwise perfectly stable relationship. There are even many places where a healthy relationship, not just stable but healthy and thriving, could be ruined by sex. Look at the characters, because sex is not always the ultimate way to show love. If anything, in a love-driven sex scene, the love needs to be firmly established BEFORE the sex ever enters the picture. Trust is part of love, but trust against the dangers of sex isn't loving, but reckless.
Some examples of other ways -- some I've written, some I haven't.
(1) Daisuke shows his love for Hikari by refusing to sleep with her again after one time. (Hikari's Future Life)
(2) Hikari shows her love for Takeru by not marrying Daisuke (as previous)
(3) V-mon shows his love for Floramon by not destroying Dryadmon (Daisuke's Future Life)
(4) Daisuke shows his love for Catherine by WAITING to have sex with her. (as previous)
(5) A man shows how much he loves his wife by jumping in front of a bullet meant for her.
(6) A wife shows her love for her husband by never complaining about him missing dinner.
(7) A couple observes their anniversary every year by each reciting a new poem that expresses their feelings for the other.
Those can all be ultimate ways of expressing or showing love, and they do not revolve around sex.
To cite an example of mine, showing how the feelings reflect in sex, you may want to look at Takeru's Future Life, where I show how he not only does it years after the fact, but how he did it before he ruined his first relationship with Hikari. What you need to remember is that sex in such a context is an expression of love, but not a measure or definer of love.
. . . That sex is a measure or requirement of love is a myth young men use to get young women out of their skirts.
But why exactly, if you don't mind my asking, is "making love" the ultimate way of showing their love? There are many examples where doing this would not be the ultimate way, but I won't cite those here. In general, doing this can even do harm to an otherwise perfectly stable relationship. There are even many places where a healthy relationship, not just stable but healthy and thriving, could be ruined by sex. Look at the characters, because sex is not always the ultimate way to show love. If anything, in a love-driven sex scene, the love needs to be firmly established BEFORE the sex ever enters the picture. Trust is part of love, but trust against the dangers of sex isn't loving, but reckless.
Some examples of other ways -- some I've written, some I haven't.
(1) Daisuke shows his love for Hikari by refusing to sleep with her again after one time. (Hikari's Future Life)
(2) Hikari shows her love for Takeru by not marrying Daisuke (as previous)
(3) V-mon shows his love for Floramon by not destroying Dryadmon (Daisuke's Future Life)
(4) Daisuke shows his love for Catherine by WAITING to have sex with her. (as previous)
(5) A man shows how much he loves his wife by jumping in front of a bullet meant for her.
(6) A wife shows her love for her husband by never complaining about him missing dinner.
(7) A couple observes their anniversary every year by each reciting a new poem that expresses their feelings for the other.
Those can all be ultimate ways of expressing or showing love, and they do not revolve around sex.
To cite an example of mine, showing how the feelings reflect in sex, you may want to look at Takeru's Future Life, where I show how he not only does it years after the fact, but how he did it before he ruined his first relationship with Hikari. What you need to remember is that sex in such a context is an expression of love, but not a measure or definer of love.
. . . That sex is a measure or requirement of love is a myth young men use to get young women out of their skirts.