07-30-2006, 04:32 PM
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Are morals a good thing or a bad thing? Well, this discussion is one I have often had with myself. What am I missing out on by saving myself until I find someone who I will feel RIGHT dating and bedding? Well, I can tell you what I'm missing for certain:
(1) Sexually transmitted disease. By not having sex, I am FAR less likely to get one of these diseases which could impair the future of my sex life in some way or another.
(2) . . . Being confronted with a responsibility I am not yet ready to handle -- be it emotionally, psychologically, or financially. Some of my worries about what could happen if I hurried with a girl were part of my driving force behind Takeru and Hikari's chapters of "Future Lives". FL Takeru is who I fear I might become, because I'm not entirely sure if I'm FL Daisuke yet.
(3) Regretting that there was nothing important involved in my firxst time. Be I married or not, I want there to be a special connection when I have my first time. This is why I'm holding out for the right person and the right time, whether that means marrieage or not.
The only thing I might gain from it is sexual prowess, and if there is already a true spark of love that's been fanned to a flame, sexual prowess should be something both partners are willing to develop with each other, over time. I may not be good when I have my first time, but if she or I isn't satisfied, I will improve for us.
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These are my two dollars on this issue. I won't sell my standards short as cents, and I won't sell them short by compromising just because it takes me time to find someone who I feel is suitable to me. And I'm not just talking about looks, because I ain't that dumb.
Are morals a good thing or a bad thing? Well, this discussion is one I have often had with myself. What am I missing out on by saving myself until I find someone who I will feel RIGHT dating and bedding? Well, I can tell you what I'm missing for certain:
(1) Sexually transmitted disease. By not having sex, I am FAR less likely to get one of these diseases which could impair the future of my sex life in some way or another.
(2) . . . Being confronted with a responsibility I am not yet ready to handle -- be it emotionally, psychologically, or financially. Some of my worries about what could happen if I hurried with a girl were part of my driving force behind Takeru and Hikari's chapters of "Future Lives". FL Takeru is who I fear I might become, because I'm not entirely sure if I'm FL Daisuke yet.
(3) Regretting that there was nothing important involved in my firxst time. Be I married or not, I want there to be a special connection when I have my first time. This is why I'm holding out for the right person and the right time, whether that means marrieage or not.
The only thing I might gain from it is sexual prowess, and if there is already a true spark of love that's been fanned to a flame, sexual prowess should be something both partners are willing to develop with each other, over time. I may not be good when I have my first time, but if she or I isn't satisfied, I will improve for us.
. . .
These are my two dollars on this issue. I won't sell my standards short as cents, and I won't sell them short by compromising just because it takes me time to find someone who I feel is suitable to me. And I'm not just talking about looks, because I ain't that dumb.